In life, there will always be things we don’t care about. It could be the latest celebrity gossip, who’s dating who, or what they’re wearing. It could be the latest political drama, or what’s happening in the world of sports. For some, it’s simply about not caring about other people's opinions.
Not caring can be challenging. We’re constantly bombarded with messages telling us that we should care about this or that. We’re told that if we don’t care, we’re bad people. We’re made to feel guilty for not caring.
But what if we just did not care?
Why should you care?
There are a million reasons why you shouldn’t care. And, frankly, most of them are more important than the things you’re supposed to care about.
Let’s start with the big one: you’re going to die. Yep, that’s right. You’re going to die. And, chances are, it’s going to be sooner than you think.
So, why waste your time caring about things that don’t matter when you could be doing things that do? Why worry about what other people think when you could be living your life the way you want to?
Of course, it’s not always that simple. We can’t just care about everything. That would be exhausting. And, let’s face it, some things are worth caring about.
But learning to not give a damn about the things that don’t matter is a skill that’s worth developing. It will make you happier and more fulfilled. And, at the end of the day, isn’t that what we all want?
Who even are you, anyway?
One of the best ways to not give a damn is to remember that you’re just a tiny speck of dust in an infinite universe in the grand scheme of things. You’re not special. You’re not unique. You don’t matter. And that’s ok!
Knowing that you’re not special can be liberating. It can help you let go of your ego and your need for approval. It can help you stop caring about what other people think and start living your life the way you want to live it.
Find your niche.
If you want to not give a damn, it helps to find your niche. What are the things that you do care about? What are the things that make you happy? What are the things that make you tick?
For some people, it might be their family or their friends. For others, it might be their work or their hobbies. For others still, it might be their pets or their political beliefs. Find the things that matter to you and hold on to them tight. These are the things that should fill up your life – not the things you don’t care about.
Some things to consider:
Personally, I have found my passion for writing screenplays. It's like a coping mechanism because I can take all of the stress I've endured and put it into something that could make the big screen one day. So far, I've created a screenplay based around a scary street in my hometown.
Don't be a pleaser!
If you're finding yourself changing your personality for someone, that's a problem.
One of the easiest ways to start not caring is to stop being a pleaser. Stop saying yes to things you don’t want to do. Stop doing things just because other people like you to do them. Start living your life for yourself, not for other people.
It can be hard to say no – especially if you’re a people pleaser by nature – but it gets easier with practice. And, eventually, it will become second nature. Trust me!
One time when I was in middle school, a LOT of people tried to change my personality to please them. Of course, I stuck to my guns. A lot of people will say that you have to follow them, DON'T!
If people can't accept you for who you are, you do not need to associate with them at all.